Mom & Dad Bonding 0
Bonding Before Birth:
Bonding happens to be deep attachment pre-existing even before the birth of child in making preparations for arrival of the new born like stitching few clothes required for wearing keeping in mind the prevailing season.
After Birth Bonding:
After birth of the infant he is very alert to touch of the mother and this process is initiated by the nursing staff at hospitals, making the mother to hold the child and attempt breast feeding.
The intensity of bonding increases taking care of nourishment and protection of the infant from disease, seasonal effects like too much hot or too much cold, insect bites more particularly mosquitoes or even from the evil eyes of other persons, who over appreciate the child’s the features or playful activities.
Scientific Evidence on Bonding:
Science has played a great role in studying the phenomenon basing its studies on primates, who are the evolutionary parents of human beings. A study group of new born monkeys were kept with mannequin mothers and compared the after effects in them in comparison to monkeys living with their natural mothers. Monkeys living with mannequin mothers lacked cohesive socializing trait because of missing socializing environment in their early life. Absence of bonding with the mother can have ruining effect on the development of child.
Readiness on the Part of Infant for Bonding:
Infant on birth is ready to bond with and can feel and respond to the actions of the mother more particularly in attempts to breastfeed the infant day and night whenever there is a cry. The infants’ first smile on your cuddling confirms bonding established with infant’s love and joy.
Infants who are kept at the nursery to recover from some disease on birth like hepatitis, the absence initial bonding with the mother, takes more time to develop. The situation is further complicated in case of adopted infants lacking contact with the natural mother.
Bonding is an ever growing and everlasting process and varies according to the age of the child. It is present even the child has reached middle age and parents have become old.
Bonding Techniques:
A new parent does not understand the new hardware received having immense capabilities only to be networked certain programs copied by a mechanism akin to the Bluetooth not revealed to the person fiddling with it to find. The system of the new born works on touch screen and audio video feed backs making you laugh, dance and some times weep also in despair.
Skin to Skin Touch is the initial response, because of unique warmth is felt and recognized. It produces a satisfactory feeling both for the mother and the infant.
Next response generating activity is related to Eye-to-eye concentration, it provides needed feed back and the infant notices some thing happening. Now it can move its eye balls to moving objects within a near distance range of its eyes. This practice repeated many times improves the reception of various other feed backs.
Now the baby understands the facial expressions on the face of the mother and can imitate them, when asked like winking of the eye and other simple gestures etc.
Next learning communication step for the infants is reacting to various voices and utter few simple syllables like mama or pap to begin with and associating them with the faces. The infant also becomes attentive to the conversations between two persons Babies often enjoy just listening to your conversations, as well as your descriptions of their activities and environments.
Deep Bonding:
Creating a Bond with the infant is perhaps most enjoyable moment for a mother, who after bearing the pains of pregnancy feels satisfied the infant recognizing her. The next activity like by the infant is gentle cradling, by which the infant in phase of comfort goes to sleep. At this moment the father of the infant should also involve him in cradling the infant in his lap.
Now is the time to do gentle massaging of infant’s body, directions for which should be obtained from your doctor. Now smell also plays a part in establishing the bonding more established. Baby soaps and talcum powders produce required mild smell and infant likes it and the bonding becomes more firm.
Parents adopting the child need to be careful in all the above processes, the earlier the efforts are initiated the results shall be long lasting and shall be similar to the biological parents.
Paternal Bond:
The present day Father of the infants is also more concerned in bonding with the infant. To achieve success they need to take some charge of infant care from the mother of the infant. Thus both the parents are on a common platform of bonding with the infant with specific roles shared among each other. It increases understanding and cooperation among each other and become more responsible.